Key Elements: Eye Contact, Facial Expression
It's always best to avoid the 'ambush' kiss (although these can be exciting as your relationship progresses). By looking into your partner's eyes, you will be not only sending the message that you like them and want to be closer to them, but you will be receiving messages as well.
A warm, kind smile (even a slight smile is good, it doesn't have to be BIG) is what you want to see and what you want your partner to see to get the green light. Just as important as the look on his/her face is where he or she is looking.
While looking down may be a sign of shyness rather than lack of interest, glancing away, or even worse, noticing someone else, indicates that this is definitely not the right time, right place or, perhaps, not even the right person. First, read a article for learning to kiss.
Final Instrument Check
Key Elements: Closeness, Alignment, Physical Touch
As you move closer to that magical kiss, you don't want to be leaning forward awkwardly to get there. Not only will moving closer send signals to your partner, but you want your body to be in a comfortable position during the kiss, so you can enjoy every moment of it.
You may want to actually touch the person just before the kiss. While a hand lightly on the face is a definite signal of intimacy, even holding hands combined with eye contact and a warm look can get your 'flight' confirmed. Just like taxiing onto the runway, you want to make sure you are aligned correctly at this point. This means not only getting your lips on track with theirs, but getting the head tilted correctly as well.
If you tilt your head slightly to one side first, your partner will likely react and tilt the other way. Watch for their tilt as well- if they've beaten you to the tilt, simply lean your head the other way and begin to move in.
Down the Runway (the point of no return)Key Elements: Relaxed lips, Closed eyes - prepare for your feet to leave the ground!
You won't need the speed of a 747 to get off the ground. Move in slowly, so that you don't end up embarrassingly banging heads, or lips. During step number two you made sure the two of you were aligned correctly, and now you can close your eyes as you're just about to make contact. Your lips should be relaxed, not tightly pressed together. You want your partner to have the pleasant experience of feeling your lips softly against theirs, no matter whether you're a guy or a girl.
A First kiss isn't a time for a guy to prove his strength, or machismo. Your lips should be recently moistened, but not wet. For guys, don't lick your lips right before you go in for the kiss. You want them dry, but not dried out- get it? It's always best to keep a stick of lip balm handy with you when you think some kissing might be in your near future. Prior conditioning can go a long way when the actual moment arrives.
For girls, hopefully you didn't just apply your candy apple red Marilyn Monroe lipstick. Lip gloss, lightly applied, or a small amount of lipstick can both keep your lips looking kissable, and appropriately moist.
Gaining Momentum
Key Elements: Relaxed lips, Head tilt, Breathing
As you are moving in, you can part your lips slightly just before contact. Keep your lips relaxed, tension-free jaw, the tongue in the hangar. Remember to keep the head tilted so both of you can still breathe comfortably (through your noses) on contact and as the perfect kiss is held. Prepare to savor every moment ... slowly, gently, easily...
We Have Liftoff!
Key Elements: A Soft Touch and Gradual Adjustments
Now you have first contact. For a first kiss, keep it sweet. Not too long and not wet. Be sure not to pull away too quickly or make any sudden movements. Savor. Savor. Savor. Often, people describe that first kiss in a relationship as falling into a slow motion movie. Enjoy the moment! It's not critical here whether your upper and lower lip are aligned with theirs, you can be slightly above or below, and in future kisses, you'll be able to experiment with different 'flying' styles!
Mmmmmmm. PERFECT.
Cruising Altitude!
Key Elements: Don't rush things, Eye contact, Non verbal messages (and verbal, too)
As the Perfect Kiss ends, pull away slowly and make eye contact once again. That satisfied, warm smile will send all sorts of positive signals to your kissing partner. At this point, both of you could be feeling a little 'light headed,' rather than airsick. Enjoy the closeness, relax, and you can even finish the kiss with a warm embrace.
A few words, such as, 'That was nice', can be whispered. Your partner may be just as nervous about as you about the kiss and closeness, and letting them know how you really feel with a little positive reinforcement always helps.
Beware! Your first kiss might go terribly wrong.
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